I’m feeling sentimental lately, has to be due to the hormones of this pregnancy. But they are just a rise of what’s already felt right? I follow this awesome group of women on facebook, and earlier today one woman asked ‘What does your man do, to make your life better?’ This really, really got me thinking. Some woman replied that their husbands help with house chores, or cook them dinner, or always help with the kids. Others answered that theirs didn’t complain about no-income livestock (horses) No matter what the answer you had to smile at the replies, because you know there was a smile behind it.
Farm life is difficult. It’s long hours, a lot of times for little reward. It’s pulling an all nighter with a sick baby calf, feeding it and medicating, just to have it die the next day. It’s not knowing when your Farmer will be home for dinner, or even at all that night. Having plans for a date that you haven’t had in two months, to have the cows get out, or have to mow hay because it’s finally dry enough. Or go to countless weddings or birthday parties alone. But, you know what? I wouldn’t have it any other way. I would not trade my life here, for anything. Through all the struggles and hardships, there are so many beautiful moments to be shared, and not every woman is lucky enough to be able to love a man who can give her that.
1. He has the patience of a saint.
Well most of the time that is. He has to sit through field after field after field, twice a year in a tractor cab, for countless hours on end. Some are lucky to have heat, air and the radio. Others not as much. He works with stubborn animals 3 times his size, and befriends every single one of them. It’s not easy when you have a crazy heifer, who everytime she walks in the parlor for the first month or two wants nothing more than to run you down and break your arm.
2. The amount of compassion he has.
This goes along with point number one some. It’s a beautiful thing to see a man care for a calf as if it was his own child. To talk to them, pet them and know each and everyone’s personality and favorite scratchin’ spots. To see him upset when you lose one, not just because it’s profit loss, but it is the loss of a sweet little life. Not just calves, but any animal that crosses his path he genuinely cares for.
3. He’s an incredibly hard worker.
This one kind of goes without saying, but it’s a blessing and a curse. He puts in long hours, sleepless nights, and his blood, sweat and tears, just for his family to have a better life. And to make the farm something better than it already is.
4. Tractor dates are actually pretty awesome.
The cab of a tractor is not roomy. So it forces you to be close. And, unless you have a little one toting along, it’s guaranteed alone time! I enjoy the nights I spend with him in the tractor cab. I always learn so much, and it’s nice to have a slow down with just the two of us making round after round. Plus Farmer likes it because he’s getting work done! Also have you ever seen the sunset from the cab of a tractor? It can be pretty breathtaking.
5. He is great with money and finances.
Money will always be a hot topic on the farm. Whether it’s being made, spent or lost. Money is going to be talked about. When steers are high corn is low, or the drought is killing the only profit to be made this year. Money makes the farm go ’round, as well as hard work ;). Farmers not only understand interest, how hard it can be to come by or how easy it goes out the door, they understand the importance of good records and financials. Which is good for me, because I personally am horrible at budgeting, Farmer is great, for that I am ever thankful. He can also make money appear of out thin air when it’s really needed. I swear, I’ve been a witness.
6. Sometimes, him missing out on an event isn’t all that bad.
Especially when YOU don’t want to go to said event. The farm is such a great excuse for not going somewhere. You don’t have to feel bad either, because you know it’s not a lie when you say you maybe too busy to go to somewhere.
7. He’s not clingy.
He can’t be! His life revolves around farming. So you are able to live your life too. Whether it’s hobbies, or girls nights, or just being by yourself for a little bit. He’s going to be okay with it.
8. He’s able to look into the future, and not be afraid to talk about it.
A Farmer has to be able to prospect out weeks, months and sometimes years into the future for plans, and stick with them. He’s not afraid to talk future and plan it out with you. He’s also generally pretty stable. He can’t just pick up and leave.
9. You share a way of life together not everyone gets to experience.
Actually, a very small portion of the population get to experience this kind of life. Not every woman can climb in the tractor cab with her sweetie on a Friday night. She doesn’t get to come home to 20 bellering calves waiting to see you. Not everyone gets to witness a new life being born, and knowing you have something to do with it. To watch the next generation look up to their Farmer dad, and know he’s a hard worker, and want to follow in his footsteps. That’s pretty special to see.
Farm life is hard. Being a farm wife, and mom can prove to be harder. But there is nothing that I would change my way of living for. I know I’m lucky to have my farmer. While sometimes it’s hard. It’s always pretty easy to love him.
What reasons does your Farmer make it easy to love him? Leave the in the comments!
A Dairyman’s Wife